What She’s Thinking: men’s dating & sex questions answered by women

14: Frequent travelers: sending a 2nd message, who pays on first date, dating preferences in 20s vs 30s, men being emotionally present, talk on Instagram vs app

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In LA on January 17th 2019? Come learn to have online dating work for you, get a new profile photo, learn to create the relationship you're looking for, and meet local singles in LA! Get your ticket here: http://bit.ly/laWorkshop

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Two frequent travelers, Patricia and Anna answer your questions.

 

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This episode covers:

- After we match, if you don't respond the first time I send a message, should I send another?

- After we match, if you follow me on Instagram, what's the next step? Do we talk there, or on the dating app?

- Who pays on the first date, what do you prefer?

- What's a good first date activity? What's one that is boring or overdone?

- How have you evolved in your dating preferences from 20 to 30?

- How important is it that your partner be emotionally present during sex? If so, what does emotional presence look like to you?

 

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13: best places to meet besides online, turn-ons before sex, turn-ons during sex, opposites attracting, when she follows you Instagram, final things they appreciate men doing

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Answering your questions about dating and sex we have:

- Christina Weber, founder of Deepen

- Ozzie Osbourne, a love & relationship coach with a podcast of her own: "The Sexy Shift"

Plus Ozzie is collaborating with me to host a dating workshop in LA on January 17th 2019. Get your tickets here: http://bit.ly/laWorkshop

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This episode covers:

- What are your biggest turn-ons before sex?

- What are your biggest turn-ons during sex?

- There's a phrase "opposites attract". Has that been true in your good relationships?

- After we match, if you follow me on Instagram, what's the next step? Do we talk there, or on the dating app?

- What do you look for on someone's Instagram? What stands out? What's meh?

- Outside of online dating, what are the best venues to meet potential partners?

- Any last things you really appreciate when guys do?

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12: how can men help when her work affects libido, how to tell she has a high sex drive, kickstarting her sex drive, first date topics, length of sex, how to help her ask for what she wants

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Answering your questions about dating and sex we have:

- Christina Weber, founder of Deepen

- Ozzie Osbourne, a love & relationship coach with a podcast of her own "The Sexy Shift". 

Plus Ozzie is collaborating with me to host a dating workshop in LA on January 17th 2019. Get your tickets here: http://bit.ly/laWorkshop

Send in your questions: makeonlinedatingfun.com/questions

This episode covers:

- What are the first date topics that meaningful and enjoyable for you to talk about?

- What are your top 2 languages of love?

- What do you find attractive about men’s bodies?

- What do you think is the solution to your work stress affecting your dating and libido? What can men do to help you with that?

- How long is your ideal sex session (the in and out portion, not the foreplay)? What is the minimum amount of time that is satisfactory? Conversely, how much time before it’s too long?

- Please rate your sex drive compared to the average woman’s.

- What behaviors in your partner help you be open and clear with your sexual requests?

- How do you like to be asked during sex what you like and want?

- How can a man tell if a woman has a high or low sex drive?

- What are things that you've found men can do to kick-start your sex drive with them? To create conditions for having that higher interest in sex?

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11: Favorite ways for nipples and clit to be touched, do opposites attract, how to ask what she wants during sex, rate your sex drive

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Marissa and Ms. X answer your questions about dating and sex. 

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This episode covers:

- What's your favorite way to have your breasts touched? What about your nipples?

- What's your favorite way to have your clitoris touched?

- There's a phrase "opposites attract". Has that been true in your good relationships?

- How do you like to be asked during sex what you like and want 

- Please rate your sex drive compared to the average woman’s.
Any last things you want to tell the guys listening? 

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10: Teasing/hinting makes sex better, wanting sex more than he does, being emotionally present in sex, dating preferences 20s vs 30s

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Marissa and Ms. X answer your questions about dating and sex. 

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This episode covers:

- How have you evolved in your dating preferences from 20 to 30?

- How important is it that your partner be emotionally present during sex? If so, what does emotional presence look like to you?

- What are the best conditions for you in wanting sex? Do you want your partner to work for it a little? Can you have sex if you are upset about something with your partner?

- How does it feel as a woman when you want sex more than your partner does, and you can’t use that asymmetry to exercise power over him?

- How does what happens during the day or time period before sex affect your desire or experience for sex? Does your partner teasing you or hinting at sex, such as via texts earlier in the day, make it more enjoyable later? 

 

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9: First dates, languages of love, creating connection, how to see if she’s not into you

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J and Dr. Lanae St. John [ http://www.themamasutra.net/biography ] answer your questions about dating and sex. 

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This episode covers:

- What's a good first date activity? What's one that is boring or overdone?
- What are your top 2 languages of love?
- What’s a way you like for a man to create connection on a date?
- What are the first date topics that meaningful and enjoyable for you to talk about?
- Does your career/work affect your dating life?
- How can you tell if she’s not interested in you?
- Please rate your sex drive compared to the average woman’s.
- Does your career/work affect your libido / sex life?
- Outside of online dating, what are the best venues to meet potential partners?
- What behaviors in your partner help you be open and clear with your sexual requests?
- What are the best conditions for you in wanting sex?

- Can you have sex if you are upset about something with your partner?

- Any last things you want to tell the guys listening?

 

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8: Making more than him, how dating online is for you vs men, profile mistakes, appreciating things men do

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Lady-bosses Jessica, Hope, and Jen answer your questions about dating and sex. This is the third and final part of our discussion!

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This episode covers:

- Do you care how much the guy makes? What if he makes less than you, does that make him less attractive?

- How do you think men and women experience online dating differently? (e.g. I think women get 10 times more attention)

- Discussion on catfishing, why to use current photos, and in general what to not do in your profile

- Any last things you want to tell the guys listening?

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7: Turnons, talking about sexual desires, “what do you want” vs “may I?”, length of ideal sex, etiquette to get back in touch

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Lady-bosses Jessica, Hope, and Jen answer your questions about dating and sex. Our discussion went so long, it's going to be three parts!

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This episode covers:

- What are your biggest turn-ons during sex?
- When you're ready to talk have sex with him, when do you prefer talking about your preferences and desires for sex? In bed before sex, while having sex, outside the bedroom?
- How do you like to be asked during sex what you like and want (direct, not asking at all and intuitively feeling it out, etc...)
- Which question do you prefer: may I do this, can we do this, or what would you like?
- How long is your ideal sex session (the in and out portion, not the foreplay)? What is the minimum amount of time that is satisfactory? Conversely, how much time before it’s too long?
- Is there an etiquette for when you are too busy one month, and want to get in touch with an old match to try again?

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6: Teasing; Foreplay spots; Saying no thanks to her, and how she’ll show she’s not interested; Where to meet besides online

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Lady-bosses Jessica, Hope, and Jen answer your questions about dating and sex. Our discussion went so long, it's going to be three parts! Part 2 is coming on Wednesday. 

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This episode covers:

- Outside of online dating, what are the best venues to meet potential partners?
- If a guy isn’t interested in you, how would you like him to tell you that?
- How can you tell if she’s not interested in you?
- Do you enjoy teasing men (like leaning in for a kiss, then pulling back if he leans in)? What do you get out of it? How do you think it feels for us? What’s the best way to deal with a woman who’s teasing me?
- Please rate your sex drive compared to the average woman’s.
- Where is your favorite place to be touched for foreplay? How do you like to be touched there?

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5: turn-offs, discussing fantasies with a guy, her sex drive compared to avg woman, how to ask what she likes, kegels

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Women answer your questions about sex! Part 2 of 2.

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This episode covers these questions:

- I love it when my partner squeezes her kegels while we're having sex. Is that something you can do? Do you enjoy it?

- What are your biggest turn-offs during sex?

- How do you like to discuss fantasies that aren't mainstream, or might have sensitivities attached to them?

- How do you like to be asked during sex what you like and want (direct, not asking at all and intuitively feeling it out, etc...)

- Any strong thoughts/feelings about "how to proceed when an established partner is not really into it at the moment but realizes these things go both ways." For example, is "be a good sport" a worthy rule of thumb? If not, what is the preferred rule of thumb?

- Please rate your sex drive compared to the average woman’s.

- Any last things you want to tell the guys listening?

 

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