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Covid-19 Cuties Z and C, part 2: why Z is having more sex, but dating less, and C isn’t dating at all

How can we date during the Coronavirus pandemic, aka COVID-19? 35-year-olds Z and C answer questions about how they're dating during this era of face masks, sheltering in place, and social distancing.

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This episode covers:

- Are your expectations of guys' efforts to date you, higher or lower than prior to the quarantine?

- What are your top 2 languages of love?

- What are the types of video dates? e.g. normally we have coffee dates, dinner dates, hiking dates, etc

- Would you feel comfortable giving him your address to be able to get the delivery, if he sent you a meal?

- What do you look for on someone's instagram? What stands out? What's meh?

- If you're having sex, has anything changed about it?

- Any last things you really appreciate when guys do?

 

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Covid-19 Cuties Z and C, part 1: why Z is having more sex, but dating less, and C isn’t dating at all

How can we date during the Coronavirus pandemic, aka COVID-19? 35-year-olds Z and C answer questions about how they're dating during this era of face masks, sheltering in place, and social distancing.

Submit your questions or Come on the Show! DebugDating.com/questions

 

This episode covers:

- What's the first dating thing you’re going to do when quarantine is over?

- In terms of priority level, what level was dating before, and how has it changed now?

- Have you changed your distance or started chatting with people from farther away as a result of quarantine? Why?

- What are you looking for from men you match with online? How has the coronavirus changed that?

- Are you more attracted to optimists or realists? Has that changed since before the coronavirus?

- Is it easier or harder for you to feel more comfortable with a guy right now, since it's harder to meet up at present?

- Normally how long would you want to wait to go on a first date? And now with the Shelter-in-place, how long are you willing to forgo meeting the guy in person?

- Are you thinking about breaking quarantine to meet in person and be intimate?

- How would you rate your sex drive, compared to the average woman’s?

- Do you want sex more or less as a result of the current situation? 

 

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Bonus Coronavirus episode for women: do you want sex more or less during the pandemic, types of video dates

Bonus episode for women. The ladies on the last interview asked for advice for themselves, so I thought I'd share that with you.

Please email me and let me know what you think of the episode! I'm greg@debugdating.com. If you'd be interested in hearing more episodes where men answer your questions, email me that as well. 

 

This episode covers:

- What is your advice to me? Can you help me be better on a zoom date?

- Articulating your desires

- From a male perspective, what vibe are you looking for when you go on a virtual date? Is that different from an in-person date?

- How do you have a date where you can see how they really look 360, and you can show your whole physical self without being crass? 

 

 

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More Coronavirus Dating with S and D: do you want sex more or less during the pandemic, types of video dates

Once COVID-19 hit, I knew I wanted to restart this podcast. Like many of my friends, I'm sure you're wondering how to date right now. So pardon the lower quality audio of my guests!

How can we date during the Coronavirus (aka COVID-19)? S and D answer your questions about how they're dating during this era of pandemic (part 2)

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This episode covers:

- Do you want sex more or less as a result of the current situation?

- What are the types of video dates? e.g. normally we have coffee dates, dinner dates, hiking dates, etc

- What are your expectations for a video date?

- Are you thinking about breaking quarantine to meet in person and be intimate?

- If a man suggested breaking quarantine to be intimate, how would you react? Or, what would you want to have happened, to be comfortable with that?

- If you're having sex, has anything changed about it?

- What do you look for on someone's instagram? What stands out? What's meh?

- What are your top 2 languages of love?

- How have you evolved in your dating preferences from 20 to 30?

- How would you rate your sex drive, compared to the average woman’s?

 

 

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Coronavirus Dating with S and D, part 1: dates in the era of face masks, sheltering in place, and social distancing

Once COVID-19 hit, I knew I wanted to restart this podcast. Like many of my friends, I'm sure you're wondering how to date right now. So pardon the lower quality audio of my guests!

How can we date during the Coronavirus pandemic, aka COVID-19? S and D answer your questions about how they're dating during this era of face masks, sheltering in place, and social distancing.

Submit your questions! DebugDating.com/questions

This episode covers:

- What's the first dating thing you’re going to do when quarantine is over?

- In terms of priority level, what level was dating before, and how has it changed now?

- Have you changed your distance or started chatting with people from farther away as a result of quarantine? Why?

- What are you looking for from men you match with online? How has the coronavirus changed that?

- Is it easier or harder for you to feel more comfortable with a guy right now, since it's harder to meet up at present?

- Are you more attracted to optimists or realists? Has that changed since before the coronavirus?

- Normally how long would you want to wait to go on a first date? And now with the Shelter-in-place, how long are you willing to forgo meeting the guy in person?

 

 

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Top 2 love languages, what does “gifts” really mean, should I send a 2nd message, “good” aggressiveness vs scary, how a man can tell her sex drive

A (27), J (27), Lauren (37) answer your questions about dating and sex.

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- Prioritize the qualities that you want in a date, so you can recognize a match when you meet one
- Brainstorm qualities of you that will attract those matches
- Upgrade your profile to attract that match, instead of people in general!
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This episode covers:

- Outside of online dating, what are the best venues to meet potential partners?

- What are your top 2 languages of love?

- Guys tend to think gifts [in the Languages of Love] means diamond rings and crazy expensive items. What are some of the gifts that you really appreciated, and why?

- How can we tell if she's not interested in us?

- After we match, if you follow me on Instagram, what's the next step? Do we talk there, or on the dating app?

- After we match, if you don't respond the first time I send a message, should I send another?

- What's the best way to get consent? Explicit and direct, or a bit more nuanced? Tell us how you tell us yes.

- What's a way you like for a man to create connection on a date?

- What kind of aggressiveness do you like in a man, and what kind is scary?

- How can a man tell if a woman has a high or low sex drive?

- Things you appreciate that men do

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No kiss by the 2nd date=move on, best activity for 1st date, does work stress affect your libido, and more!

A (27), J (27), Lauren (37) answer your questions about dating and sex.

In the San Francisco Bay Area? I'm hosting two VIP Online Dating deep dives, each limited to 8 people, so I can give you personal attention.

During the VIP session we'll:
- Debug your profile, including fixing common mistakes you're undoubtedly making
- Determine how to recognize the match you're really looking for
- Upgrade your profile to attract that match, instead of women in general!

SF: Monday April 1st at 7pm
South Bay: Monday April 8th at 7pm

If you're serious about getting your online dating working, grab your ticket before they're gone! (You can also get tickets at debugdating.com/vip)

 

This episode covers:

- Do you expect anything different from matches high end of your age range vs the average or low end?

- What are the Pros/Cons of Online Dating sites (PoF, OkCupid) vs Apps (e.g. Tinder)?

- How do you think men and women experience online dating differently? 

- If you could choose any activity for your next first date, what would it be and why?

- Do you care how much the guy makes? What if he makes less than you, does that make him less attractive?

- If you're 2 dates in and there's still no kiss, would you move on?

- Is there an etiquette for when I'm too busy one month, and want to get in touch with an old match to try again?

How does your career/work affect your libido / sex life?

- Please rate your sex drive compared to the average woman’s.

- How long is your ideal sex session (the in and out portion, not the foreplay)? what is the minimum amount of time that is satisfactory? conversely, how much time before it’s too long?

- What are your biggest turn-ons before sex?

- What are your biggest turn-ons during sex?

- Which question do you prefer: may I do this, can we do this, or what would you like?

- What's your favorite way to have your clitoris touched?

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Who pays on 1st date, favorite foreplay spots, how to ask if she likes what you’re doing during sex, attractive parts of men’s bodies, things she appreciates when you do

R (36), S (27), and G (26) finish answering your questions about dating and sex.

In the SF Bay Area? I'm hosting two VIP Online Dating deep dives, each limited to 8 people, so I can give you personal attention.

During the VIP session we'll:
- Debug your profile, including fixing common mistakes you're undoubtedly making
- Determine how to recognize the match you're really looking for
- Upgrade your profile to attract that match, instead of women in general!

SF: Monday April 1st at 7pm
South Bay: Monday April 8th at 7pm

If you're serious about getting your online dating working, grab your ticket before they're gone! (You can also get tickets at debugdating.com/vip)

 

This episode covers:

- Where is your favorite place to be touched for foreplay? How do you like to be touched there?

- How do you like to be asked during sex what you like and want (direct, not asking at all and intuitively feeling it out, etc...)

- How does it feel as a woman when you want sex more than your partner does, and you can’t use that asymmetry to exercise power over him?

- Who pays on the first date, what do you prefer?

- What do you find attractive about men’s bodies?

- I love it when my partner squeezes her kegels while we're having sex. Is that something you can do? Do you enjoy it?

- Beyond the first time you have sex, how do you like your boyfriend to tell you he wants to, and is excited to, have sex with you that night?

- Any last things you really appreciate when guys do?

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Best way to get consent, length of ideal sex session, creating connection on a date, top 2 languages of love, discussing fantasies that aren’t mainstream

R (36), S (27), and G (26) answer your questions about dating and sex.

In the SF Bay Area? I'm hosting two VIP Online Dating deep dives, each limited to 8 people, so I can give you personal attention.

During the VIP session we'll:
- Debug your profile, including fixing common mistakes you're undoubtedly making
- Determine how to recognize the match you're really looking for
- Upgrade your profile to attract that match, instead of women in general!

SF: Monday April 1st at 7pm
South Bay: Monday April 8th at 7pm

If you're serious about getting your online dating working, go to debugdating.com/vip and grab your ticket before they're gone!

This episode covers:

- What's a good first date activity? What's one that is boring or overdone?

- What's the best way to get consent? Explicit and direct, or a bit more nuanced? Tell us how you tell us yes.

- What’s a way you like for a man to create connection on a date?

- What are your top 2 languages of love?

- After we match, if you don't respond the first time I send a message, should I send another?

- What kind of aggressiveness do you like in a man, and what kind is scary?

- Rate your sex drive compared to the average woman’s

- How do you like to discuss fantasies that aren't mainstream, or might have sensitivities attached to them?

- How long is your ideal sex session (the in and out portion, not the foreplay)? What is the minimum amount of time that is satisfactory? conversely, how much time before it’s too long?

Get your questions answered: debugdating.com/questions

 

 

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Turn-ons during sex, caring about how much you make, how to tell her you’re excited for sex, how you can create connection on a date

Stefanie Maegan (28), the host of the Broke Girl Therapy podcast, and Rose McAleese (29) answer your questions! (Part 2 / 2)

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This episode covers:

- Beyond the first time you have sex, how do you like your boyfriend to tell you he wants to, and is excited to, have sex with you that night?

- When you want to have sex more than your partner does, or your partner wants to have sex more than you do, what do you feel like is the best way to work through that, to talk through that, to deal with it?

- How can you tell if she’s not interested in you?

- Do you enjoy teasing men (like leaning in for a kiss, then pulling back if he leans in)? What do you get out of it? How do you think it feels for us? What’s the best way to deal with a woman who’s teasing me?

- Do you care how much the guy makes? What if he makes less than you, does that make him less attractive?

- What’s a way you like for a man to create connection on a date?

- What are your biggest turn-ons during sex?

- Any last things you really appreciate when guys do?

Finally, here's Rose's playlist for sex:  https://open.spotify.com/user/1220199229/playlist/51pLZJ7nNCMfJvp29lFC6U?si=vIZTpPFNTouAmDblKJ7SBw

 

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